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My girlfriends moved away, about a nine hour drive. I didnt get much help on UG for this. But what are ways to help it stay alive and keep working? I think it is possible, since we were together before she moved.

DISCLAIMER: I'd wait for Tush to get back before you take any of my advice, he's the guru but I'll have a go anyway.

As far as I know (And from what I've witnessed and been told from others), long distance relationships don't work out all that well 99 times out of 100.
The longer the distance, the more so that they don't, but I guess if you've got a strong relationship between the two of you, you might be able to make it last.
9 hours is pretty far away though, how would you plan on seeing each other regularly?

Aeroplane trips within the country are cheaper than driving, we're a small country after all

And i'm getting my motorbike too Those things dont run through much fuel, so whenever i get some time off heading up there would be a whole load of fun. And after lookin further into it its more like a 7 hour drive.

Well, my advice would be to give it a go.
If you've both decided that you'll give it your best shot, what's the worst that can go wrong?
It's probably a better decision to see how things turn out then to break up and just assume that it'll never work out.
Best of luck with it either way

What makes this different is it was initially a good relationship (not saying its now bad) and it's become long distance

Long distance initially=A MASSIVE NO-NO

However if it ends up happening as this has it can be massively awkward
The problem is, although you might be able to visit fairly often, it obviously isn't the same, and USUALLY this effects one or both partners into ending the relationship, they don't like the sudden change, decide it's better to not be together and to focus on closer people

If this doesn't happen it can be fine, however ask yourself, do you REALLY (and I mean REALLY) plan on staying with her forever? If not, which is fine and usually the case, it could be better ending it now anyway, as harsh as it seems you've reached a natural deadend, and although jumping the wall is possible, it often isn't the best idea

Seriously consider things, personally I'd still advise against it, however it's understandable in this scenario to 'break' that rule

Although as Anthony says, it's better to assume it might work rather than it won't, it's just again a case of can you see it lasting forever, if not, you're spending time and effort effectively wastefully (don't take offence, I don't mean to say she's a waste etc)

So yeah, I hope that makes sense/helps

As Scarr3d already said, it seems that 99 out of 100 long distance relationships don't work out. I sure as hell know that mine didn't.

However, I think it all depends on the seriousness of your relationship. If it has a strong foundation, you might find that you can keep it going.

But you have to bear in mind that with the massive distance between you, you're not going to be able to see each other too much, and with that, you might find that you begin to grow apart.

However, what do you lose by trying? You never know, it could work, and you could get something brilliant out of it!

So I say go for it man!

Thanks guys I have some good news.

My dad is driving to Auckland (where she moved to) in early december for work, so I'm going up with him.

Her parents have OK'd it that I stay at their house for a couple of weeks. So today I bought my plane ticket for the trip back and its all sorted!

That is really good news, make the most of what you can for those few weeks.

Cherish every moment

Haha, well, we plan on camping in a tent out on the beach away from the parents So there should be plenty of 'cherishing'

Sounds like it